Within a 48 hour period my washing machine broke and flooded the kitchen, the buttons on my mobile stopped functioning and my Sky TV broke. I spend each working day trying to manage difficult situations but this felt like a whole new level. Much to my surprise the failure of my washing machine seemed like the worst thing that could ever happen. I could not deal with the mess it was creating and how no matter what I tried I could not fix it (trust me I tried for 4.5 hours). I felt like a failure, why I couldn’t fix it!
What I learnt from this weekend it what stresses me the most is feeling out of control. When something breaks you immediately want to fix it and when you cannot mend it yourself the panic kicks in. Previously I would have turned to my boyfriend to help me fix most things, but since being single I have felt I must do everything alone and succeed. If I didn’t that would make me a failure. What I discovered, after spinning in circles for a number of hours (mentally rather than physically), is that when it comes to the mechanical things, everything can be fixed. The key- all I had to do is ask. I got a recommendation of a good washing machine repair man and an Iphone specialist and by lunch time the next day it was all fixed and by the end of the day I was calm again.
While thinking about the topic of broken things, it got my thinking about myself. My health isn’t too great at the moment and I have come to realise it isn’t the pain that really gets to me; it’s that I cannot fix it. It also seems that this is what seems to bother my nearest and dearest too, the lovely people in my life are so caring and all want to make me better too. If I am going to let me broken washing machine teach me anything it’s that rather than getting myself wound up, I need to learn to ask for help. Just because I am single doesn’t mean I am alone. I am lucky enough to have good people around me to help me through anything and collectively I am sure we can fix most things (or at least make it a little better)…I just need to make sure I don’t take them for grant either.
To finish todays post I have found some related quotes; they cover a mixture of topics- fixing things, failure and helping others.
If you’re doing your best, you won’t have any time to worry about failure. ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won’t cure, but I don’t know many of them. ~Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar
Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light. ~Norman B. Rice
There’s nothing to match curling up with a good book when there’s a repair job to be done around the house. ~Joe Ryan
Slow down and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you. ~John De Paola
One fails forward toward success. ~Charles F. Kettering
Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you. ~Mother Teresa
I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work. ~Thomas Edison